The other night, i got angry with my son. He didn’t do anything bad but he wasn’t obedient to my command to clear up his table before we sleep – gather the books, put them back on his bookshelf, place the pencils in the drawer, clear the table of any mess. I had to repeat my instruction or request 3-5 times. He said he didn’t do it because he didn’t like to. When you repeat your instruction for several times that means your blood is starting to boil, you start getting annoyed and angry. This can happen several times in a day or in a week. How will that make you feel? Disappointed, discouraged, frustrated, exasperated…
I was blessed to attend a couples / family retreat where our session led to sharing on being Christlike in the family. A lot of parents shared the same struggles – anger, respect, gentleness, submission.
As i pondered on the matter, dwelling with our weaknesses makes us downcast and want to quit. But when we look at God’s word, He tells us:
Phi 4:8 (esv)
8 Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.
Rom 12:2 (esv)
2 Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
These 2 verses tells us to stop dwelling on our weaknesses and failures. Stop babying your sin and think positive. Arise from where you have fallen, and start living in God’s power and victory. As you spend time with God, meditate on His word, and soak in prayer, we will be transformed from the inside out. Instead of thinking about anger, think about how to be kind, how to respond with gentleness, how to love unconditionally. We are all works in progress and by God’s grace and His Holy Spirit living in us, we will succeed so that He may be glorified in our lives, in our families. God bless you all.
To be continued on next article – Perspective on Anger