Genesis 2:24 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife and they will become one flesh.
This is the first biblical principle we can learn about marriage. But let us explore some of the common arguments that we give in order to avoid following this principle.
Argument # 1: Economical – save expenses from ren to buy or build our own house.
Truth # 1: God’s economy is different from our economy.
Truth # 2: God’s blessings follow obedience to His will.
God does not give us a command for us to follow and just leave us on our own strength to do it. But in His every command, there are blessings connected with it. God blesses us for every step of faith and obedience that we do / take.
Career and Marriage: I started working with a starting salary of 10k peso gross a month. I left and opted to help in our family business and starting a new frontier in Davao and General Santos along with my dad. It was a clean slate, we had 0 sales for several trips. In 2002 as we plan for our marriage, we learned about the biblical portrait of marriage by Dr Bruce Wilkinson – Leave and Cleave. After we heard that message, we were thinking of the pros and the cons like this common argument that we have. But still we decided to obey God’s design and started looking for a house. We were getting disappointed because we couldn’t find a good house with a good location. Still we trusted God. For Chinese culture, it is a fear of the children to ask permission from their parents to live on their own because their parents might be insulted. When we told our parents about it, they gave us their blessing.
God’s commands are tied up with His promises. In His time, my mom and dad were able to find a “not so old house” with a great location. The size was twice and the price was half of a brand new one. It was really a bargain though we still had to renovate the interior. Truly God is amazing at providing when we follow His will.
Next paying for the house: Again, God provided and increased my sales with the suppliers that He has given me. My wife got promoted at work too. Despite of the increases in income, we sacrificed from spending money for our pleasure and luxury and devoted all our earnings in paying off our mortgages because we believe in a debt-free lifestyle.
In all these years, we didn’t fail to “return” our tithes (10% of our income) to God. We saw His faithfulness and provision year after year until we were debt free – The blessing of faith and obedience to our Almighty God. He is our Great Provider and He is in control. As we near the end of our mortgage, He gave us our first son. What a great bonus and perfect timing.
I encourage you once more – Trust in God’s promises – He will never leave you nor forsake you. If you follow His commands, He will provide for you, He will enable and empower you to abide in His principles. Our wisdom and economics are foolishness compared to His wisdom and His economy. Again, God’s blessings follows obedience to His will.