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What is there with Computer Games and Men?

Men just love playing computer games. It doesn’t matter how old they are, young and old alike loves them. Why do men get hooked at playing computer games? I think it has to do with the hard-wiring of men psychologically. Games boosts our ego, raises our self-esteem, and gives us a sense of pride when we experience success and victory in the stages and levels we go through. It gives us the opportunity to use our brains to strategize, analyze, and execute the plans that we developed. The nice thing about it is, nobody judges us when we fail. We just try and try again. The challenges and competitions that are built-in it just appeals to our ego – to be number 1, to be the very best.

In reality, these qualities are the instincts of men. These are the very foundations which men use in daily life – looking for jobs, executing our careers, finding a girl, marrying a spouse. Everything revolves in these life skills – analyze, strategize, overcome challenges, competition, triumph, success, and achievement. Games has appealed to these skills that is why men are easily hooked, or should i say addicted to these games.

With these facts, i wish i could end on this high note but sadly to say I cannot. The downside of gaming is “IT JUST ISN’T REAL.” The digital world we live in, is not the reality that we perceive it to be. Being number 1 there doesn’t have a bearing in our “real” standing out here. It will be foolish for us when we trade the physical world for the digital world.

The disadvantages are as follows:
– For the youth, it will be in their skills/talent development.
– For the adults, it can be distraction from fulfilling their full potential.
– For married men, quality time with their wife and kids.

Because games take up our time, we can’t practice our sports or music skills. We are not able to use our creative skills in arts and literature. We cannot spend time with people and our families, with our wife and kids because we are busy in isolation, excelling in the digital realm. You can be the best at NBA but don’t even know how to catch a ball in real life. You’re a great sniper but don’t know how to fire a gun. Games has the deception of making us feel good but in really is nothing. Instead of spending time, reading story books, playing board games, playing imaginative role playing stories, leading devotions, modeling prayer, we become contented with everybody busy with their own technology – watching YouTube, doing Mine Craft. Recently, I am playing Clash of Clans and it allows me to converse with my son but what about? – the levels of the city, the warriors involved, and so on. We talk, yes, but is it deep conversation about spirituality, about deeper relationships, and important life issues? No! So i wouldn’t call that real conversation. It’s not even quality time. I may reason with myself that I’m still in control, I still get my responsibilities done, i still spend time with the kids, and even be in denial that I’m not addicted. I have it under control… Since my wife doesn’t want me to play, i play when she’s not around, and even play in the bathroom. It has become a secret, modeling lying to others. Despite of being allowed to play by your spouse, the concerns I mentioned earlier still is true.

I hope you can agree with my prayer and pray it from your heart.
Our Heavenly Father, I pray that you open my eyes to see that I am in bondage. Remove my desire and interest in these games. Let me be bored with it. Help me to know the truth about the use of my time, the talents you have given me, and the purpose of my life. Allow me to obey you radically. Fill us with your Holy Spirit that we may be set free and empowered to live a life of freedom and productivity. Our lives are yours, may it bring glory and honor to you. In Jesus name, amen.

What will be the best thing to do? Delete it and never open it again. Replace the old habit with new habits – spend time with your family and friends, enhance your skills, read books, engage in sports, and so on. If you have other ideas do let me know… God bless.

Computer Time EQUALS No Time???

Let us start off with looking at a few examples:

Situation 1:
Child: Hi dad/mom. Can you play with me?
Parent: Sorry child, i can’t. I’m busy. You can play your tab or computer.

Situation 2:
Parent: Come on kids, let’s go out for dinner with some of my friends.
(At the restaurant, kids become playful and noisy)
Parent: Kids, come and sit down. Here, play my cellphone, so we can talk.
(Kids are quiet playing computer games, while the adults chat)

Situation 3:
Child: Hi dad/mom. Can you play with me?
Parent (coming home from work): Sorry child, but I’m quite tired from the office. Go play your games.

Word of Warning: What i say next is shocking. It may anger you and prompt you for a violent reaction. You may call me old-fashion, out-dated but please do bear with me and consider this profound truth that is happening around us.

With the above situations, it maybe that we did not directly instruct them to play computer games but rarely do i see kids that are not drawn to gadgets. Computer games are so interesting, captivating, exciting, and engaging that it gets the attention of both the young and old alike. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that we should not use technology for education. But there are articles online that says, videos and computers are not recommended for small kids because it hampers their brain development and develops more ADHD cases, due to short attention span. Moreover, computer games are really addicting and has become just like alcoholism and drugs.

This shocking profound truth is: Has computer game time translated to Us having “No Time” with them?

With the reality that we are living in, kids are left alone with gadgets – tv, internet, computer games. Yes, computer games develop strategy and all that. But children now a days are lacking creative play, the use of their imagination. Despite of all the toys around them, children who are used to play computer games says “I’m bored.” if left for even a few minutes without it.

INVEST TIME WITH THEM. Children longs for your time – Time to play with them, be with them, spend time and enjoy them. Don’t you miss the time, the family spent jamming together, playing truth or dare, playing chess, game boards like monopoly, millionaire, game of life, boggle, scrabble, playing cards, pictionary, going road trips on weekends, doing sports, and so on. I bet you remember and miss those games that you used to play when you were young.

DO THE REAL THING WITH THEM. They play Angry Bird, be the bird and build the pillows. They are playing baking and cooking games, bake and cook with them for real. They’re playing basketball, play with them in a real court. Play chase, play around the house. City living is full of buildings and malls that are children don’t have places to run around. It would be good to bring them to parks and see nature often.

We have to AWAKEN THE INNER CHILD in us once more so that we can role-play with them, play their toys creatively with them just like in the movie Toy Story. You are never too old for it. It even makes you younger.

STOP WASTING TIME yourself with Facebook and Twitter. Stop minding the lives of other people and make your life count with those who are really valuable to you – that’s Your FAMILY. It is not too late. Make your life count, starting with your own family then with those around you. Stop playing games yourself – Bejeweled, Candy Crush, and so on.  You are throwing your life away for nothing. Again, my appeal to you, invest your time to what really matters – your children and your family. May God allow us to realize this and help us make the right choices to make our future a better and meaningful one specially for our children. God bless you all.

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